I WAS making Sunday dinner (a nice joint of lamb with green beans and roast potatoes) and was listening to 6-0-6, the football phone in on BBC Radio 5Live, to keep me company.
Ex-journeyman footballer and full-time lad Steve Claridge was hosting the show and making my blood boil as he kept defending the thuggish behaviour of Manchester United defender Rio Ferdinand, who “accidentally” kicked a female steward in frustration after his team’s loss to Chelsea on Saturday. He was said to be aiming for a brick wall when he “brushed” the steward’s leg by mistake.
Yeah, those stewards just pop out of nowhere in those bright, florescent yellow coats, don’t they Rio?
Caller after caller was ringing in to say that Ferdinand should be banned for his outlandish behaviour but the blinkered Claridge wouldn’t have any of it, saying instead that the incident should be dropped because the steward who was assaulted is said to have accepted Ferdinand’s apology.
But that’s not the point, Steve. Apology accepted or not, Ferdinand is supposed to be a professional and is, whether he likes it or not, a role model for children. He’s also the man supposedly in line for the England captaincy. Is this really someone we really want leading out our country, a man with so little control that he’s liable to fly off the handle when angry?
The only way to stamp out (if you’ll excuse the expression) this kind of behaviour in football is to make an example of the perpetrators by fining and banning them. Liverpool’s Javier Mascherano was recently banned for an additional two matches after being sent off during a game for merely arguing with a referee. Surely booting a steward, accidentally or not, is worth more.
The ridiculousness of Claridge’s flimsy defence reached its apotheosis when one caller stated that Ferdinand should be banned for life. Admittedly this was over the top but it was then that Claridge said that, with respect, the listener couldn’t possibly understand because he had no idea of the “pressure” professional footballers are under.
It was a tactless insult to the listener but I suppose a man of Claridge’s mindset wouldn’t see it that way. How could a man who does not kick a ball around for a living, while getting paid millions for the pleasure, know anything about pressure?
Give me a break. John Bloggs knows just as much about pressure as any top-ranking footballer – they have to deal with similar stresses with their relationships and health as well as at home and work. On a bad day, a hospital ward, classroom, mechanics yard, office or driver’s seat of a bus can all be as pressurised an environment as a football stadium.
And a look at the current state of the economy will show that, compared with most footballers – Steve Claridge states on his MySpace page that his income is “£250,000 and higher" - your average person is certainly feeling far more fiscal pressure these days.
What about all those low-income people who will get financially hammered after the abolition of the 10p tax?
Struggling to survive on an even smaller low-wage salary in a credit crunched economy – now that’s what I call pressure. Not picking out gaudy furniture for your mansion in the north-west property hotspot of Hale. Famous footballing underachiever Emile Heskey is reported to have just finished work on a home worth £5million in the leafy Cheshire haven – and his team, Wigan, for whom he’s scored a whopping four goals this season, are still not mathematically safe from relegation. I’m sure he has problems sleeping at night.
Plus, these billionaires probably don’t pay much or any tax on their grotesque wealth, as most of them probably have non-domicile status – another brilliant scheme that Gordon Brown’s so-called socialist Labour Party keep promising to review but doesn’t – and avoid stumping up their fair share for the public coffers to the tune of some £126bn a year, according to some reports.
Yeah, let all the bankers who get paid millions for screwing up the economy get off tax-free while the lowest earners pay for the upkeep of the nation’s crumbing infrastructure. Nice one, Gordo. No wonder you are so popular at the moment.
Anyway, as you can see, I was building myself into a nice little frenzy while this twerp Claridge twittered on about the sad state of the poor, beleaguered footballer and I found myself yelling at the radio, as one does, using the kind of colourful language I am unable to repeat on the website of a family newspaper.
So incensed, I went into the living room – not that I needed to travel that far to have my feelings heard – and regaled Mummy with my views of this obscene situation. I was well into my stride when Mummy cut me off abruptly and pointed to Golden Boy, who had stopped crawling across the carpet and was watching me wide-eyed.
He appeared at that moment, I am saddened to say, almost a little scared of his dad. Why on earth is Daddy yelling and looking so angry, his expression seemed to say. Of course, I felt guilty and went over to him right away to make amends. After a cuddle and a bit of a play, he seemed to have accepted what I guess was my apology.
It’s easy to forget that your children are there when we get lost in our own worlds, but they see and pick up on every little thing we do, even when they are as young as my son, just 13 months. I suppose I am used to having a rant when discussing events with my friends or my colleagues but perhaps I, like Rio Ferdinand, should learn to keep my emotions in check sometimes. I, too, am a role model and shouldn’t forget my responsibilities.
At the beginning of Ham On Rye, the semi-autobiographic tale of writer Charles Bukowski’s childhood and adolescence, his literary alter-ego Henry Chinaski says that, from an early age, his father seemed like an angry man and that he never liked him because of it.
Now I am not a consistently angry father and I would hate for Golden Boy to grow up and ever say that of me.
** Email New Age Dad at paul.rhodes@express.co.uk
DEAR PENNY
03.05.2008, 3:12pm
You have to admit your are somewhat fixated with diana, are you gay?
If someone likes charles, and camilla , then in pennys world everyone is against diana, and every one a suspect, [conspiracy nutter]
I do not care for charles or camilla, and i think the queen will never let charles be king.
But i am not a conspiracy muppet like you!
and i believe the queen is biding her time, till wills and kate are married, the queen is no muppet.
The queen is a good role model, and she should run the country !
Posted by: venus Report Comment
VENUS, I THOUGHT WE WERE DISCUSSING LIVING ROLE MODELS, NOT DIANA?
03.05.2008, 8:00am
Why bring Diana into the equation, Venus?
We are discussing role models and I pointed out the fact that people look to the top for moral examples and that Charles and Camilla are, as future King and Queen , further at the top than footbalers, Politicians and Prime Ministers, who are elected in and booted out if the public are not satisfied with the way they do their job or hold their promises?
Why do you think pointing a finger at the moral standards of Camilla and Charles, means one is discussing Diana?
Diana is dead.
Camilla is very much alive and it is her example as a married adulterous mother, having a very long term affair with the married heir to the throne, father of 2 Princes and future King, who is standing before us drenched in honours and titles and yet has set a very low and disgraceful moral example of how to get to the top by ruthless means with no regard for the consequences and repercussions on the institutions that need to be respected, that was being discussed.
What sort of an example has Camilla set as a woman who has got what she wanted out of lying, cheating and destroying others and yet is showered with honours and titles for having set such a example?
Does it look good?
Is this the example the world sees, now, as the 'British example'?
Footballers are not standing before us as future Heads of the Church or future Queens are they, Venus?
Posted by: Penny Report Comment
FOR PENNY
02.05.2008, 6:40pm
I never said that charles and camilla are good role models, i said it as not affected wills and harry, they are getting on with their lifes, as diana would have wanted.
Plus i do not think footballers are a good role model either, they all cheat on their wifes.
oops comment deleted, user banned, for speaking their mind.
Posted by: venus Report Comment
ISO YOU THINK CHARLES AND CAMILLA ARE GOOD ROLE MODELS, VENUS?
02.05.2008, 3:45pm
I think if you are so convinced Charles and Camilla are good role models and that they are a good moral examle set to the world of how a future King and his mistress should behave to get what they want at all costs, then, Venus, you might find that you are in a minority!
Why pick on footballers who are not standing before us as Her or His Royal Highness, or future King or Queen and accuse them of having low moral standards and being bad role models when we cannot even look to the top of the privilegded for the same?
If future Kings cannot show a decent example, then how in the world can you expect a footballer to do so, or expect a Prime Minister or a Politcian not to cheat, deceive and lie too?
Posted by: Penny Report Comment
FOR PENNY OBSESSIVE DIANA FAN
02.05.2008, 2:18pm
You seem very old fashioned in your beliefs.
Charels and di split up, get over it,
Alot of parents slit up, it does not mean they are bad role models, for their chidren.
I know many people that have split up, and it has not affected their children.
Look at wills and harry, they are getting on with their lifes and having fun, that does not mean they do not think about their mother everyday.
Posted by: venus Report Comment
ROLL MOGGLES
02.05.2008, 6:57am
The reason our teenagers are turning into thugs is that we are now starting to see the results of a poor education system. Our teenagers are taught in school about their rights, that they can DEMAND respect. In our day we were encouraged to COMMAND respect. There is a very big difference.
Also, I notice that spelling mistakes are never corrected by teachers now, and they are meant to "self-edit"... what a load of tosh!! School used to be a place where pride was taught. Nowadays the teachers are too afraid to correct the child for fear of losing their job, or being beating up by the parents and 6 of their mates.
Now, "when the kids wants a pair of trainers they goes and robs them themselves bruv". Some of these kids can barely TALK properly, or even write their own NAMES. Scruffy is now the new neat.
So the real role models should be parents (if they can find out who the father is without the help of Jeremy Kyle) and teachers, not some guys who kicks a football around for more money a week than they can earn in 5 years.
When footballers are paid so much, how can anyone relate to them anyway?
Proper "roll moggles" should be found at home and in school.
We have about 5 years to put this right or our streets will end up like war zones.
Posted by: SOMERTON Report Comment
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